your messages will be moderated

I am feeling like a moron right now and do not see the settings you are talking about. This is what I did...
1) Community Builder --> Plugin Management
2) uddeIM PMS

I do not see "User Settings" anywhere. Can you perhaps take a screen shot and show me where I need to be looking.

Lol, don't feel bad, think we've all been there at one point or another, the thing is that you're going to cb then plugins, but you need to go straight into the udeim plugin. hope the screenshots help.

hope this helps.

I don't feel so stupid now. I didn't see it because I was looking for a big blue dot! Mine just shows as a pencil and paper. I remember doing this now. When I did it I was thinking Mod for the user was a moderator not to be monitored.
I am running Joomla 1.5 I would like to upgrade to 1.7 but having trouble with my site looking correct in that version. It is a work in progress.

that's exactly what happened to me, I followed the same logic, thinking they meant to be a moderator rather than been moderated. Glad i could help.